Jan Haldane - The Cost of Excess Baggage

Ever had to pay excess baggage rates at the airport? It’s really expensive. However, the cost of excess emotional baggage is higher!

The truth is we all have excess baggage from past relationships. Sometimes it’s just a carryon and we’re travelling light. More often than not, we’re struggling along with a huge trolley laden down with piles of bags. Here’s the thing, emotional baggage costs us in terms of our happiness and the happiness of those close to us.

Put simply, if you go into a new relationship dragging a laden down trolley instead of travelling light, you will poison the relationship. Sure as eggs. I know because I’ve done it in the past, and I’ve heard from countless clients who have done it too. Emotional baggage is toxic to new relationships.

So how do we downsize from multiple suitcases to a single carryon? How do we ditch the stuff that’s holding us back (which is most of it), and keep the smaller amount of wisdom gained, that will help us create a happy relationship going forward?

Where did all this baggage come from anyway? We weren’t born with it. We’ve acquired it in the School of Hard Knocks or at the University of Life.

Somehow thoughts that once protected us from more pain have become part of our belief system, and are now sabotaging our success in our relationships.

I have developed a system for releasing these redundant thoughts. Here’s the link to the first chapter of my book You Can Love Again http://www.janhaldane.com/giveaway.html.

So, grab a piece of paper and a pen and get to work ditching the baggage!