Lani Lopez - Love

LOVE. It’s the most powerful emotion and it’s really what makes the world go around. But how do we get it and how do we keep it?

The secret is… to tell others how we like to receive love and then discover how to give others love in the way that they want it. So for all you lovers out there - here are my 5 steps to love.

EXERCISE:

• Step 1 – Affirmation: Some people like to receive love by hearing that they are loved.
• Step 2 – Gift Giving: Some people feel loved when they give or receive gifts. Elizabeth Taylor was famous for her delicious trove of diamond gems that were gifts to her incredible beauty.
• Step 3 – Action: Spending time together and doing something for someone else.
• Step 4 – Touch: Massage, stroke of acknowledgement, brushing hair, holding hands, sex.
• Step 5 – Trust: Looks like loyalty standing up for each other – being there when you say your going to be there.

Some people like all of these love languages or others have strong affinities for one or two.

Find out what you want and what they want so you can speak each others love language.

A child may give gifts every day but in return love cuddles.

A woman may do all the washing to show her love.

A man may organise all the little jobs around the house that may need doing.

Couples may need to put aside work or stress and actually be present to one another, spend time together. Good quality time.

Cuddling, snuggling, and touch are also important aspects of love.

Trust is something that needs to be monitored and people need it in different ways. Communication is key here.